Generation after generation propagating violence toward self and other, instead of finding the words to say, directly, “Help me,” and, “I’m worried there’s something wrong with me,” and, “I don’t want to be alone.”
Shame keeps us stuck, playing small, and unexpressed.
Shameless Heart Coaching is about remembering that the essence of who we are is love. It’s about fomenting shameless being and unfathomable mercy in our world, and inspiring a deep softening and relentless compassion toward ourselves.
From here, we can unleash the power and potential that are our birthright.
Stopping the cycle of shame involves two key components:
1) Healing our personal shame, and deepening our capacity for shameless self-love.
2) Re-learning to communicate from our hearts, and in so doing, becoming both kinder and more authentic, without resorting to suggestions that the other is “wrong,” shameful, or inherently flawed.
In the process, we contribute to a kinder, more loving world. We learn to navigate the stuck places in our most intimate relationships, and develop practices to sustain and nurture them. And, we heal, cultivating a deep mercy for ourselves, forgiving all the shameful places that have kept us in hiding.
Because the truth is:
there is nothing wrong with you.
You are not bad. You may think there is something wrong with you. You may think this a lot, you may think it all the time. But the truth is, there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfect as you are. You are whole as you are.
Taught to hide, and that we’ll lose connection if we let ourselves be seen, in many ways, we live half-lives.
In Shameless Heart Coaching, I support you in rediscovering your inherent goodness, softening towards it, so that you can come out of the closet with all that you love and value.
Like contributing to the world around you.
Like permission to rest.
Even when you’re scared of others’ disapproval. Even when you aren’t sure how to speak up. Even in the midst of the adrenalin-pushing, non-stop drive to produce more, grow more, be more than you already are.
We find the love in all your messy humanity, and we help to give it a voice, and lay the path for that love to become the guiding voice in your life.
Do You Want to Live
Do you want to express your affection more readily, even when it’s “risky” and there are no guarantees, because this brings you more fully alive?
Do you want to make time for what you love, even if it means the possibility of having to deal with others’ disappointment?
Through counseling and relationship coaching, I support individuals and couples in reclaiming what you want and need, with the impact that…
… you can have that conversation that you thought was too scary
… you can cultivate and nourish the intimacy you’ve been craving
… and you can speak up for yourself and make powerful requests for what you need
all shamelessly, and with heart.
And in the process, you get to rediscover gentleness with yourself, patience with your partner, and a sense of feeling a helluva lot more alive, vibrant, and whole.
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